To Every Thing There is a Season

“To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.” Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

Dear Friends,

The passage above says it all for me. There is a season and a time for everything and for me, the season is changing.

I am writing to let you know that I will be stepping away from The Dreaming Café for an undefined period of time.

I cannot continue to try and balance taking care of my Mom, taking care of my family, working part-time, building a business and writing career and taking care of my own well-being all at the same time.

Balance is an unattainable illusion that just keeps you running in circles and beating yourself up for not succeeding.

And, I can’t do it anymore.

The decision to let go of The Dreaming Café, even if only temporarily, isn’t easy.

My inner critic taunts me with statements like:

    “If you stop, you’ll never start again.”

    “There are millions of blogs. If you stop now you’ll lose everything; three years of writing and building relationships down the tubes. You’ll have to start all over.”

    “People will forget you.”

    “You’re a failure. Just another blogger, writer wanna-be, who bites the dust.”

Stepping back in many ways does feel like failure. And, I am afraid that all of these fears will come true.

But, right now, despite these fears, The Dreaming Café it is a distraction and a burden.

Right now I have other responsibilities and other priorities, the main one being taking care of my Mom and supporting her during the final months of her life.

The truth is, if I have to, I will start over. I’ll take it one small step at a time, one day at a time, one post at a time, one relationship at a time.

It won’t be the first time I’ve had to start over and it may not be the last. I’m okay with this.

So this is goodbye, at least for awhile.

I want to thank all of you for allowing me and The Dreaming Café to be part of your life these past three years.

I wish you all the best and I hope I’ll have the pleasure of connecting with you once again in the future.

Peace, love and blessings,

5 Responses to To Every Thing There is a Season
  1. Sandra L.
    April 22, 2012 | 10:54 pm

    Dear Sandy, I agree with what Rasheed said. And I need to believe it myself. I’m not the world’s best blogger. Quite frankly, sometimes I don’t feel up to it. And I’m afraid that no one will ever read it again when I step away.

    But…you have only one mother. I am so, so sorry that she is ill. Do what you need to do. Take care of her…and yourself too. The rest of the world will be here.


  2. Nancee McPherson
    February 26, 2012 | 2:01 pm

    Kudos to you. Who was it that said we can have everything, just not at the same time. My favorite folks are those who show me about self-care, not just talk about it. I’ll be here when you come back. Take care…

  3. Jeanne
    February 5, 2012 | 11:15 am

    hi sandy,

    i’m with susanna, i’m honoring the beauty of what your life holds right now.

    AND i’m also honoring how hard it feels.

    this would be just one more instance in which the way you live ~ and share of it ~ impacts the life i have going on over here. your honesty, vulnerability and courage. those are the takeaways for me.

    your community isn’t going anywhere, sandy… except stepping in a little closer to support you as you do this tremendously inspiring thing with your life. being there for someone else.

    and maybe you won’t be able to help but to post occasionally and share with us of this special time you are in.

    thank you for every bit of you, sandy! you are such a strong light : )

    this video made me think of you. you will, no doubt, love and be fed by ALL of his soulbiographies.

    see you around the block, sandy! i love you, too :))))


  4. susanna brackman
    February 5, 2012 | 12:10 am

    I know the place you are standing-
    put my life on hold for 4 yrs while i & 3 sisters joined up to hold
    space for my MOMs launch
    it was incredibly helpful that people around me conveyed how
    important what i was doing…
    the BIG perspective
    i have never regretted a moment of my dedication and devotion
    to participating in the circle of LOVE & care
    it is, a privlidge
    i, we honor
    your jesture & salute you
    available in anyway i may support you Dear Sister

  5. Rasheed Hooda
    February 4, 2012 | 8:50 am

    Hey Sandy,

    Good to hear from you. Sorry to hear that you will be leaving the blog for a while. It is OK. You know who you are and where you are and where you’re going. That’s a lot more than most people can say. That’s more than I could say when I was your age.

    As for making connections, or losing them, don’t worry. If you have made genuine connections, which I believe you have, not only they are not going anywhere, they will be there ready to cheer you on when you get back. I know I will be.

    Take care of yourself and let me know if I can be of service to you in any way. A friend to talk to, a shoulder to cry on, I am there.

    I love you my friend, always!


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