No Comparisons Allowed

No matter how young or old you are comparing yourself to someone else is a very bad habit to fall into.

I know. I’ve been there.

Comparing yourself to someone else throws unneeded obstacles in your path and slows down your forward motion.

Comparing yourself to someone else is an excuse to let you off the hook from trying.

Comparing yourself to someone else makes you feel bad.

Comparing yourself to someone else creates self-doubt.

Comparing yourself to someone else diminishes your accomplishments.

Comparing yourself to someone else is NOT a good gauge to see where YOU are at.

Comparing yourself to someone else stops you from freely expressing who YOU are.

Tonight I caught myself. I read an article about a very accomplished young woman and immediately began to compare how much she has accomplished at such a young age to what I’ve accomplished.

Then I stopped. Her story was inspiring. But, it was her story, not mine.

I appreciate where I am today and where I’ve been. I recognize that all my life experiences have led me to where I am today. And, where I am today is where I am suppose to be.

At The Dreaming Café there are no comparisons allowed.

I won’t compare myself to you or to anyone else, and I certainly don’t want you comparing yourself to me.

Instead, try comparing yourself to you.

Comparing yourself to you helps you recognize real obstacles in your path and provides a realistic opportunity to clear them out of the way.

Comparing yourself to you eliminates your excuses for not trying.

Comparing yourself to you allows you to feel good about where you’ve been and where you are going.

Comparing yourself to you increases your self-esteem.

Comparing yourself to you highlights your accomplishments.

Comparing yourself to you is a good gauge to see where YOU are at.

Comparing yourself to you allows you to freely express who YOU are.

When you compare yourself to you instead of someone else it allows you to focus on what it is YOU want to do and who YOU are.

Read about someone else’s accomplishments, cheer them on, congratulate them, learn from them, be inspired by them and then get back to your own work.

Forget about comparing your age, gender, race, income, education, accomplishments or failures to others who you think are like you.

The only thing you need to do, is start today, take baby steps, start again tomorrow with more baby steps and compare where you are today with where you were yesterday.

Tonight I recognized how far I’ve come and I compared myself to me.

In the past I would have probably wallowed in self-pity after comparing myself to the young woman in the story. But, tonight the comparison lasted but a brief second. And, one day I expect that comparing myself to someone else won’t even cross my mind.